Sons and daughters, perhaps you wonder if it is another attack on your freedom or an attempt to change you or your mind. Perhaps trying to evangelize you in order to set you on the right path as many would say. Or maybe that God sends me to change you.

No, sons and daughters, it is neither of those. I know you have feelings also, I know that politicians are looking for an answer that would not jeopardize their popularity with the public. Maybe some religious person thinks they are doing God a favor in condemning you. Maybe they feel sorry and want to use the charter of right to defend you against aggression or aggressors.
Maybe they are counting how many are gay if it will tip the balance of power. Maybe they have a son like I have who is gay. Maybe they had tendencies to homosexuality. Son I love you! My daughters also that feel left out, I love you.

“Why do I love you?” one would say. For the first time sons and daughters, I will share this publicly. At the age of twelve I was sexually assaulted by a man. He had a good song he truly seemed to love me, more then my father who was always angry and unfairly treating me compared to my older brother. In such I missed a brother and a father. Physically the flesh is far from easy to control for anyone. Especially when from a young age, boys and girls have experienced personal physical and sexual ventures. Many factors take place in ones life. If for instance the father is gone, or as good as gone because of neglecting the love a child needs because of alcoholism, cheating, the car or perhaps the newspaper or to have dictatorship. Perhaps religious beliefs, that command, excessive preaching to all, in the neglect of the child. These become more important in such neglecting the child. You see my sons and my daughters I’m not here to preach but to ask you to forgive us parents. I’ll take the blame for all the years you have suffered without the love I now know.

My children, my heart is your home. Forever I love you my sons and daughters. I see you now as my little boy or my little girl before my heart.
How I’d love the opportunity to run my fingers into your hair, to hold you in my arms as the little one of my own flesh to see the child living in you for the first time. How I love you my baby. Yes you, the girl, or the boy in my heart now. No one can love you as I do. No man can love you as I do sons and daughters. Loving you is becoming the best and only true companionship forever without touching you my son and my daughter. I wish I had been awake this much to the importance I have in the life of others. To love is not to use but to be there forever my love.

I’d love walking with you, holding you preciously within my heart just to the thought of your presence beside me. A true love that no flesh can disturb, much less anyone. I write to you wherever you are. Have you ever wish for someone truly loving you in the love that only a true father can give to his son or daughter? How can one love what they criticize? Love is as the wind that passes through your heart to the taught of the love of some one.

A true love of that kind will never leave you uncertain, fear full of its ending, jealous of others taking it away like a father leaving his children for another women. I did that. I’m sorry. I understand their coldness and rejection. I understand that any man would be better then no father. Like wise for women. Young girls that have learnt that to take any love that comes by and all you can get to survive because of people like me, and the many unknowing of the pain of their children.

Also in marriage, where women will result in anything to try to please a man that would love them as they have had dreams of, they will become instruments of flesh to find anyone telling them they are beautiful. Even the fashion industry will make women believe that unless they are half naked that they will never make it. A lesbian told me one time who would know how to love a women better then another women? Look at the world today.

Are we not all suffering my children? Come home let me love you whoever you are, wherever you may be. Some are called fathers and cannot see the needs of the children of their community. Are they not fathers to them? No wonder Jesus said, “Don’t call anyone of this world father. No one knows how to father you better then your heavenly father.”

Before HE left the world He told His followers “My Father and I are one and the same, as I have loved you, love one another.” The churches need to relearn how Jesus was in his love. Mary of Magdela could have become lesbian if the Father that Jesus was had not been there.

My sons and daughters be not afraid at all. No preaching, because a father’s love can only be felt in your heart not spoken to you. The love of a father my little girls and my sons, will never entrap you in sexuality. It is unique. It is as a magic medicine that opens your mind to true happiness where life as a whole suddenly becomes different. This incredible love makes you want to stay forever. You forget your weakness regardless of what they are. It is that beautiful. If it seems as a dream only, wake up to it. It is there for you. It will never leave you again. I feel the same coming from your heart son or daughter. I miss you all my love, all of you of the world. In China, anywhere I just love you that much.

One world, with one father, imagine when all fathers will live the joy of being a little boy in this family environment. My children its time we face each other, not in a show down nor seeking victory over the other because in a conflict if any one looses no one wins.

Church leaders where is the father’s love since you are called fathers? Where is the love of Christ towards the sinners as you preach? The fatherly love for others excludes no one; the cheating husbands or the child abusers. This is child abusing for all people are God’s own. Imagine if Jesus were here. Would he reject anyone including those you call gay? Let me tell you a story that happened in Toronto a few years ago, a true story.

A night in a house filled with gay men
Coming out of doing a conference in a well-known church of Toronto, it was about 12:00pm. I had promised two women to drive them home since it was so late. Coming out of the church with the two women, a young man was standing at the door of the church waiting for me to come out. As many would say it was obvious that the young man was gay. He approached me saying he needed to talk to someone. I told him I had to drive these women home but that he could come with me, and then on the way back I’d give him all the time he needed. So he agreed. On the way back he said to me, “You know I don’t know why I was just walking around rethinking my life. This church or any church is the last place I’d want to go to. However something told me to come in and listen a bit. Then I felt you would hear me out.”

He told me his story about his strict father in Vancouver who pushed him to the limit. One day, frighten of his dad he decided to leave and hitch a ride to Toronto where his dad could not find him. He was then 14 ½ years old. Now he had reached 23.

In Toronto he became a street homeless until this nice man felt sorry for him and took him in. Bought him clothes gave him monies let him eventually get his drivers license and drive the car.

Coming home one night some 3 years later, the nice man presented him with a paper of how much it had cost him to look after him all this time. There was another way to settle this account, by been nice to this man. After all, his father could have treated him this way but did not.

Anyhow I asked him to invite me to his place. It was on Church St. in Toronto. It was by then 3:30 am and there were about 20 other gay men partying. He introduced me to them and many laughed believing it was something usual. Anyhow the words of a father were coming out of my mouth as I loved them all as my own boys and as this suffering young man looking for a real love of a father that I have yet to find in this world. At about 7:00 am one man got up and started to laugh saying to me “Listen old man, do you think your preaching has converted any one here tonight?” They all laughed, I prayed inside of my heart because they had not recognized my love for them, suddenly the Lord brought to my mind “Have anyone of you been bored and lonely tonight? Perhaps none of you realize that perhaps this night is the only one this house has seen with a fathers love and not by physical contact that otherwise the night would have been unbearable. Bravo my sons!”

The young man and I walked out of the house; you see he saw a different and true love of a man that truly cared without having to touch him. Outside I asked him, “Do you miss home?” Yes and no was the reply. “If I knew that my dad would not hate me or scare me anymore, I’d love to go home.” So I told him “You know I can prove you that your dad has changed and that he misses you terribly.” “How?” he said. “Ok, give me your parents phone number in Vancouver and I’ll call asking for you. Then you’ll see if he has changed. I promise you that you make the decision and only you will decide.” So he gave me the number. I called it was 4:30 am Vancouver time, the father answered the phone, I asked, “Is (the boy’s name) home?” The father started to cry and said, “My boy left home some years ago. We have not heard of him since. How do you know my son?” I said, “I have not seen him either for some time.” The father said “Promise me sir that if you hear from my son, tell him I’m sorry and that I miss him terribly so does his mom and two sisters. Promise-me Sir!” The son was listening with me on my cell phone, suddenly grabbed it out of my hands and screamed “Dad it’s me your son. I miss you dad. I love you dad is mom there and the others?” They spoke. Then the father asked me if I could take care of his son that he would have a plane fare in Toronto in the next few hours. I agreed. I took a room at a motel with him (as a father) and I was so happy for all of them.

The young man asked me “Did God send you?” “Maybe, it is so nice to make some one happy without expectations.” I said. He then asked me “Do I tell my dad I’m gay because my dad hates gay people.” I replied “Son tell your father your life story. Everything.” “Even that I’m gay?” “Son why did you come to the church? Why did I speak to you seeing your gay manners? Was I not as the good man that bought you clothes and put you up? However I represented fathering to you as to all gay people. Never once have I failed to make the point because I truly love all people. Your father is learning to be a father like I’ve become.” I asked him “Did you feel like proposing anything to me?” “Oh no Sir. It never entered my mind.” He said. “So that tells you that you have learned to be a father one day. To gay people and to women also missing their fathers deeply.”

He left for Vancouver the day after and is now in University to become a pediatrician. By the way he is now very happy, the true meaning of ‘gay’. He has a girlfriend. Remember people of all kinds, when those you long for the most, in their love that never shows, it is then very easy to get attached to anyone who will love you. But remember that a true love is like the best friend, you need not to touch to prove your love. If you do, you never loved. Especially when the physical controls your mind, then there is no love. Not even in marriage. End of story

Habits, however they come can be overcome!

Sexual habits have dominated the mind of people from the beginning of time. Be it in the excuse of marriage or other wise. The flesh controls characters, humor, behavior, impatience, arrogance, jealousy, hatred and all forms of insecurity. Those habits can all be overcome easily. The proof is that when suddenly what you take for granted leaves you for whatever reason, especially for someone else, you break down and cry. Had you treasured it as you do when it leaves you, it would have been forever. When you are at your best in respect that demands not touching, no one would ever leave you. That is the true father image to each other. Seeking by the flesh to assure yourself of security, you then fail because it is not true. Why you will say? Anything such as the flesh that addicts you to wanting more is the proof of its insufficiency. Then it leads to others. Just as much in marriage as any other relationship including gay.

With love to all of you

A father to the nation
Roger Poisson