August 14, 2008
The first thing my mother said to me, ‘I wish that one day for you, and the woman you marry to recognize that you love each other from the heart. It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor but what will be beautiful for you to learn is to love and share with each other.’
My father always said, ‘Learn to drive a garbage truck if you want to as long as you are happy. This is more important than to make money and never to be happy. I remember my mother teaching me when I was a young boy. We had no car so my mother took the bus and she said to me, ‘I’ll get in first, and you get in after!’ So I said to my mother, ‘But if I fall who will help me?’ She said, ‘What is more important is to protect the mother from falling, because girls are more important than this!’
It may be very shocking for young women to learn this today. It doesn’t matter whether they are French, Russian, European, whoever – what is more important is to love and to share with each other, even the poor would say, ‘I feel rich because we’re in love because love is more important than to make money and never be happy.’
It was fascinating when my mother said this but I don’t understand anymore what she meant, ‘If one day you marry a girl make sure you can provide for her but that you and the young girl love each other because without love it’s impossible to be rich from your heart.’
Now what else is fascinating is that I had many cousins who were pregnant but without a husband. Now if I had slept with a woman who then had a baby my mother would have thrown me out. My mother said, ’Don’t come home anymore if you get a girl pregnant!’ So I remember one day (and I’m sorry to say this, but it is true) a woman said to me, ’I’m pregnant!’ Right away I was very scared because my father would kill me for sure if I got a girl pregnant without marrying her! But there is something you don’t understand. My cousin was pregnant but not married and my mother saw her all the time and helped her every day even though she was not married . But to us she said, ‘Get out and forget who we are if you ever get someone pregnant without marrying her!’ I didn’t understand.
Anyway, I ran away from home. Plus here is something that may sound funny now but it was very sad for me then. The woman said she was pregnant (and you will laugh when I say this) but I didn’t sleep with her at all! I only hugged her and I believed this is how she got pregnant. I guess I was stupid, but I thought this was true at the time!
It is time now for people to learn who you are. It doesn’t matter whether it happens in Montreal or Toronto or anywhere else because what I write for you is the truth. How many times have I heard people say, ‘My mother forced me to marry this guy. And I’m supposed to prove I respect my mother even though I don’t love this guy at all!’ The girl says, ‘But I love this other man!’ And her mother says, ‘No, he’s too poor!’ Then the daughter says, ‘I respect my mother and I will force myself to marry this guy even though I don’t love him at all and I will lose the man I love because I want to respect my mother!’
And how many people tell me the same thing – that they are forced to marry because it means ‘money’ but love means nothing? I understand why children will never be happy. Plus there is something else fascinating to learn. I can’t say their names but I have heard people say this many times…’I made a lot of money when I married a guy with money - but we never loved each other.’
At least respect your children from the heart. Your children are more important than money and your friends. Respect your children at least!
What shocked me the most today is that a mother said,’ I wish that your father would die this afternoon. I would divorce him if I had the money to pay a lawyer. Then I could get a lot of money from the divorce because I was never happy before. My mother forced me to marry him.’ And now, what do the children feel for the past? This is more important than yourself – for your children to be happy because you yourself learned to love too. You will think for sure that I am crazy because of what I say but I ask you the same thing.
A young girl wished to be married. But it shocked me to hear what the mother said, ‘What is most important is to make money even if you don’t love him at all because I want you girls to make a lot of money. If you don’t love this guy, it doesn’t matter.’ (I’m sorry about what you are learning today, but it is true.) A mother told her daughter this because she looked at her daughter like she was a whore. ‘All that’s important is to make money!’ Imagine this - about her daughter! You are a ‘pimping’ mother…’Getting money is more important than you, my daughter!’
Today I am learning from young girls, I would like to be with you like a father. This is who I am. The only thing that matters is to love from the heart. This is more important than anything else and I would help you to see you happy whenever I can. Then a daughter and son will truly learn love from you.
It seems incredible when you realize that all of Canada, the U.S., and anywhere you go 80% of newly-weds get divorced and lose everything because sometime you come to realize money has become more important than to be loved wherever you go. This is why many young people come today to see me in person because the young are looking for love. Remember how I ran away from my father who was a tough guy! I learned from that and today I am happy to be a father to all the young.
Learn about love and you will feel rich even with no money because you have found love. And now it’s time young girls decide to be happy because you come to see me in person. Love the man and he will fall in love with you too. You will work faster because you both share from the heart. It is more important for him to marry for love than look like a stupid man who someone marries only because he makes a lot of money. He thinks he can buy anybody like this. What a sucker!
If I was smart I would wish for the girl to love me. This is more important than to think I could win anyway ‘whether she loves me or not’. Then you are not smart. Share your love with each other then your children will become happy to be with you - all together.
Here is a little story from Toronto that happened a few years ago. I can’t say the name but you will realize what it means. Some young people married many years ago and someone was so happy for the father and mother they went to Hawaii for their anniversary. Someone paid for this trip as a ‘congratulations’ for being together so many years. You will be so shocked to hear this: ‘Congratulations to the father and mother’ but they are fighting every day. They don’t love each other at all but ‘Congratulations to you!’ The man makes a lot of money and together they travel everywhere. I was there five years ago and I looked at these people and thought, ‘Isn’t it beautiful how much they love each other!’ There were a lot of people talking to me but I was so shocked when she said, ‘We fight every day! We hate each other!’ And imagine, three weeks ago they traveled to Hawaii for their anniversary!
So think before your children fall in love!
Thanks, that’s it! Do you get it, my girl? By the way, when you want to learn to be happy one day, call me!
Yours truly,
Roger Poisson from the Spirit
